What about your friends?

tlc what about your friends
Twenty five years ago the R & B trio, TLC, released a song called “What about your friends?”  The lyrics go something like this:

What about your friends, will they stand their ground,
Will they let you down again?
What about your friends, are they gonna be lowdown, 
Will they ever be around,
Or will they turn their backs on you?

I loved this song when I was a kid, however it is even more relevant to me today. Continue reading


Hurricane Harvey, Joel Osteen and Casting Stones


We have all been saddened to hear about the devastating events that have occurred in Houston, Texas this past week.

However, I have been saddened to see how this time of grieving, sadness and loss has turned into a lot of finger pointing about who’s helping whom and by how much.

I’ve also been really saddened to hear about criticism Joel Osteen is receiving about not opening his church doors soon enough and perhaps not being truthful about some other details about why his church wasn’t open. Continue reading

Give me an answer Lord!


I’ve always been an inquisitive person.

I know a thing or two about inquiring of the Lord.  I know what it’s like to pray looooong and hard about a situation just to hear crickets.  Or to pray that something won’t happen and it does anyway.


And sometimes we’re tempted to stop praying.

Or give up hope.

Or give up praying all together.  It’s kind of like we get disappointed by God and we give him a lifelong side eye because he didn’t answer that prayer or didn’t answer it in the way we thought he should have.

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Dating Advice for Men


(Part 1 of this series was posted yesterday for the ladies.  This is Part 2 for the fellas.)

I hear a lot of men saying that it’s hard to find a good woman.  I don’t doubt that, women have their issues.  One minute we say we want one thing and the next minute it seems we’ve completely changed our minds.  What is it exactly that women want in a man? 

If you’ve been on the dating scene for a minute and want to find something serious I have some tips that I think will improve your chances of finding a quality woman.  Continue reading

Ladies: Make better dating choices


For the most part I am a big advocate of speaking the truth in love, I believe you catch more flies with honey than vinegar.  But every now and then I have to shoot it to you straight.  Even Jesus did that from time to time.  His words could pierce like a sword.

Please know I am here to help you.  I am on your side.  But there are some things you must hear.  I am not saying you are guilty;  you are not already condemned in my book,  I am  simply asking you to evaluate yourself against the below dating advice and go from there. Continue reading

Dream Killers

lightstock_397969_jpg_mayaMartin Luther King had a dream.  I have a dream.  You have a dream.

We all have dreams, goals and desires that we want to see come to pass.

Are you excited and optimistic that your dreams will come to pass or do you feel discouraged and doubt that they will ever manifest?

Did you once know beyond a shadow of the doubt that you wanted to accomplish a certain task or achieve a certain goal but now that dream seems far beyond your reach?

Maybe you somehow got off course or your dream feels like it was somehow stolen.

Have you lost hope?  Well I want to encourage you today. Continue reading

Winning with the hand you are dealt


I didn’t really grow up watching sports.  I attended some football and basketball high school games growing up, but my family wasn’t really that into sports.

I didn’t really get into sports until I got older and one of my guy friends started taking me to professional games and explaining plays to me.  I’m still not the most well versed in it by any means but I know a lil sum, sum!

But what I noticed is that when the team is loosing the coach will often make adjustments to the plays in order to win the game.

Sometimes the team comes back to win the game and sometimes they don’t.  Such is life.

So this got me to thinking that sports games are similar to the game of life.  Just like a good coach will make adjustments at half time in order to win the game so it is with the game of life. Continue reading