The perils of intimacy


Oh Intimacy!

Where do we start?

I trusted you

And you let me down

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I remember


I remember the pain;

The words

The action

The hurt

I remember feeling hopeless

And lost

And confused

And scared


I remember feeling alone

And afraid

And child-like

And small


On days like this I remember


I remember the dreams

The hope

Smiles and the rain


I remember the storm but I remember the rainbow

I remember the pain but I remember the growth

I remember the silence but I remember the comfort

I remember the laughs and the cries

The smiles and the frowns

The sunshine and the rain.


Oh honey…. on days like this I remember


Take the lead

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I never wanted to be a leader.  I never saw myself as one and often had trouble speaking up in a crowd or voicing my opinion.  I come from a background where my opinion often wasn’t encouraged or valued so being a leader wasn’t something I was really secure in.

Following was something I was much more accustomed to and had an easier time with, however I noticed there were times when I was following the wrong people.  Continue reading

Follow the leader


Usually my blogs are written from a place of reflection.  I usually write about a situation I’ve gone through and share what I learned or mistakes and mishaps I encountered along the way.  Very rarely do I blog in real time; like in a “Dear Diary” sort of way.  Well currently I feel inclined to blog about this particular area of my life as I am walking it out, instead of after it’s finished and I’ve gleaned some wisdom from it.  Continue reading

What about your friends?

tlc what about your friends
Twenty five years ago the R & B trio, TLC, released a song called “What about your friends?”  The lyrics go something like this:

What about your friends, will they stand their ground,
Will they let you down again?
What about your friends, are they gonna be lowdown, 
Will they ever be around,
Or will they turn their backs on you?

I loved this song when I was a kid, however it is even more relevant to me today. Continue reading

Hurricane Harvey, Joel Osteen and Casting Stones


We have all been saddened to hear about the devastating events that have occurred in Houston, Texas this past week.

However, I have been saddened to see how this time of grieving, sadness and loss has turned into a lot of finger pointing about who’s helping whom and by how much.

I’ve also been really saddened to hear about criticism Joel Osteen is receiving about not opening his church doors soon enough and perhaps not being truthful about some other details about why his church wasn’t open. Continue reading

Give me an answer Lord!


I’ve always been an inquisitive person.

I know a thing or two about inquiring of the Lord.  I know what it’s like to pray looooong and hard about a situation just to hear crickets.  Or to pray that something won’t happen and it does anyway.


And sometimes we’re tempted to stop praying.

Or give up hope.

Or give up praying all together.  It’s kind of like we get disappointed by God and we give him a lifelong side eye because he didn’t answer that prayer or didn’t answer it in the way we thought he should have.

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Dating Advice for Men


(Part 1 of this series was posted yesterday for the ladies.  This is Part 2 for the fellas.)

I hear a lot of men saying that it’s hard to find a good woman.  I don’t doubt that, women have their issues.  One minute we say we want one thing and the next minute it seems we’ve completely changed our minds.  What is it exactly that women want in a man? 

If you’ve been on the dating scene for a minute and want to find something serious I have some tips that I think will improve your chances of finding a quality woman.  Continue reading