Football and forgiveness



The other day I was watching an NFL game; (Go RAMS!) both teams played well and both teams suffered some mistakes.  Both teams at times fumbled (i.e. mishandled) the ball, but I noticed how they had to quickly shake off whatever play they didn’t make and go on to the next part of the game.

In other words they could not dwell on their screw up if they wanted to continue to fight for a chance to win the game.

I thought about how this type of attitude can be applied to the lives you and I live every day.  If we want to make it through to our goal, the finish line or just life in general we can’t get hung up on the everyday screw ups; mistakes we make and offenses made towards us by others.

Getting caught up on an old hurt is like fumbling the ball and continuing to fumble the ball because you can’t get past the first fumble (the initial hurt).  Even with some of life’s biggest hurts, we can’t let those get us caught up or we will stay stuck, unable to move forward in life, going around the same mountain, replaying the same offense. Continue reading


Stuck in the past


How many of you struggle with living in the past?

Maybe you feel mentally stuck in old memories or emotionally stuck in old hurts.

Well, you’re not alone.

The other day I was entertaining an old friend I hadn’t seen in years from school.  We did some reminiscing, which is normal, but I noticed that the majority of the conversation this person carried had to do with what happened when we were in school.  Even though this person had made major moves since those days it seemed his heart was still in what could have been. Continue reading

You have permission to be yourself




It’s OK to have a break-down

To get angry
To cry
To show emotion
It means that you are human
We are not robots
Our burdens at times get too heavy to bear
And it’s OK to need a break
To be flawed
And vulnerable

We are men and women

We’ve been through a lot
We are not perfect
Nor are we trying to be
It’s OK for men to cry
It’s OK for women to get angry

You have permission to be yourself

Today and everyday
You have permission to fail
You have permission to excel

You have permission to be authentically you

With all your ups and downs
It’s OK to plan for tomorrow
But live for today
It’s OK to love
And it’s OK to hurt
It’s OK to win some
It’s OK to lose some
And it’s OK to walk away
Or stay

It’s OK to be you

I’m just here to remind you 😉




I remember


I remember the pain;

The words

The action

The hurt

I remember feeling hopeless

And lost

And confused

And scared


I remember feeling alone

And afraid

And child-like

And small


On days like this I remember


I remember the dreams

The hope

Smiles and the rain


I remember the storm but I remember the rainbow

I remember the pain but I remember the growth

I remember the silence but I remember the comfort

I remember the laughs and the cries

The smiles and the frowns

The sunshine and the rain.


Oh honey…. on days like this I remember


Take the lead

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I never wanted to be a leader.  I never saw myself as one and often had trouble speaking up in a crowd or voicing my opinion.  I come from a background where my opinion often wasn’t encouraged or valued so being a leader wasn’t something I was really secure in.

Following was something I was much more accustomed to and had an easier time with, however I noticed there were times when I was following the wrong people.  Continue reading

Follow the leader


Usually my blogs are written from a place of reflection.  I usually write about a situation I’ve gone through and share what I learned or mistakes and mishaps I encountered along the way.  Very rarely do I blog in real time; like in a “Dear Diary” sort of way.  Well currently I feel inclined to blog about this particular area of my life as I am walking it out, instead of after it’s finished and I’ve gleaned some wisdom from it.  Continue reading

What about your friends?

tlc what about your friends
Twenty five years ago the R & B trio, TLC, released a song called “What about your friends?”  The lyrics go something like this:

What about your friends, will they stand their ground,
Will they let you down again?
What about your friends, are they gonna be lowdown, 
Will they ever be around,
Or will they turn their backs on you?

I loved this song when I was a kid, however it is even more relevant to me today. Continue reading

Hurricane Harvey, Joel Osteen and Casting Stones


We have all been saddened to hear about the devastating events that have occurred in Houston, Texas this past week.

However, I have been saddened to see how this time of grieving, sadness and loss has turned into a lot of finger pointing about who’s helping whom and by how much.

I’ve also been really saddened to hear about criticism Joel Osteen is receiving about not opening his church doors soon enough and perhaps not being truthful about some other details about why his church wasn’t open. Continue reading

Give me an answer Lord!


I’ve always been an inquisitive person.

I know a thing or two about inquiring of the Lord.  I know what it’s like to pray looooong and hard about a situation just to hear crickets.  Or to pray that something won’t happen and it does anyway.


And sometimes we’re tempted to stop praying.

Or give up hope.

Or give up praying all together.  It’s kind of like we get disappointed by God and we give him a lifelong side eye because he didn’t answer that prayer or didn’t answer it in the way we thought he should have.

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