I truly think modern dating culture is all jacked up. There are so many common trends that I see among Christian and non-Christian dating circles that make no sense.
How different do you think the world would be if we were all proud of who we are? If we didn’t feel like we had to apologize for our misgivings, mistakes, families, race, preferences, physical appearances and the like.
God doesn’t expect us to have amnesia about our pasts. But don’t regard the pain of the past as more significant than the work He wants to do in you today.