“Welcome to Fight Club. The first rule of Fight Club is: you do not talk about Fight Club. The second rule of Fight Club is: you DO NOT talk about Fight Club!”
Those are two famous lines from a popular 1999 movie called Fight Club. Brad Pitt stars as a guy who’s looking for a challenge in his life and forms an underground boxing club with a buddy that evolves into something much more. That’s about all I remember about the movie, I only saw it because the guy I was dating at the time was into it. I don’t like movies with a lot of violence so I quickly forgot it all.
Another Fight Club that I am familiar with is a Christian teaching series taught by popular North Point Preacher Andy Stanley (son of the even more popular preacher Charles Stanley). You probably haven’t heard of this one but it’s a four part teaching series about fighting for our relationships in life, particularly the one with our parents. I won’t go into detail about this series but it’s something I’ve studied for years; I would listen to the series, file it away and then maybe pick it back up a few years later.
America seems to enjoy a good fight. We watch folks battle it out in the boxing ring, we watch people fight for the love of their life on the big screen and we admire those who fight for the freedoms of our country. Somehow, inherently, I think we know that a good fight is just a part of life. But amidst all of this sometimes I think we forget to fight for ourselves.
Welcome to Fight Club.
Life is a battle. There are ups and downs, highs and lows, sunshine and rain. It’s easy to feel like you’re on a roller-coaster that just won’t quit. And I think it’s human nature to just wish all circumstances would line up so we can just coast along on an even keel for a bit.
But unfortunately that’s not reality.
You have to be willing to fight for a lot of the things you want in life. You don’t have to fight but you can choose to fight. Think of it this way, I know a lot of people who have weight loss goals, well you can just sit around and wish the pounds a way or you can choose to fight for it. This means you’ll have to abstain from certain foods and sweat in the gym. It’s not easy, fun or cute, but it’s a fight for your health.
Or let’s say you want to go back to school and finish a degree you never started or go for a work promotion that requires additional skills. You will have to balance school with work, family, and whatever other responsibilities you now have as an adult. It won’t be easy, fun or cute, but it’s a fight for your professional career.
And lastly we all see the frequent hashtag #relationshipgoals on social media. We all have them or should anyway. Even if you are in a healthy relationship you should be open to taking your relationship to higher levels throughout the span of the relationship. And even healthy relationships go through challenges where you may need to set new goals or re- focus. It’s hard work to be in a relationship, there are times you will have to humble yourself, work on yourself and endure hurt feelings. And you guessed it, it’s not easy, fun or cute but it’s necessary. It’s a fight for your relationship.
Even more than the fitness, professional or relationship goals, I think we need to be willing to fight for ourselves often in the wee midnight hours. There’s times when we’re blessed to lean on friends or family for strength and guidance but there’s also times when we have to fight solo, maybe because no one shares our vision for a certain goal or maybe there’s no one that you know who’s walked in a particular situation you’re facing. That’s when you have to be willing to wield the sword for yourself, not just for someone else.
Fighting for yourself can happen in a number of ways, it can mean taking a step of faith in a certain area, or working to change a bad habit or something else. Or it can be as simple as telling yourself positive affirmations every day. If you come from a negative background just looking for something positive to reflect on each day can be a battle. I see so many angry and negative people in society I honestly think a lot of people aren’t aware that they need to fight for their daily emotional well-being.
Often we walk around feeling so dis-empowered because we’re told we’re from the wrong socioeconomic class or racial group, or we’re a woman, or we’re disabled or we don’t look the part, etc etc.
Every individual has power; you have the power of choice and no one can take that from you.
So if I was going to create my own Fight Club I’d say the first two rules are:
1. You don’t have to fight, but you can choose to
2. This is a fight for your life
Welcome to Fight Club!