What about your friends?

tlc what about your friends
Twenty five years ago the R & B trio, TLC, released a song called “What about your friends?”  The lyrics go something like this:

What about your friends, will they stand their ground,
Will they let you down again?
What about your friends, are they gonna be lowdown, 
Will they ever be around,
Or will they turn their backs on you?

I loved this song when I was a kid, however it is even more relevant to me today.

Every now and then, I get a little crazy,
That’s not the way it’s supposed to be
Sometimes my vision is a little hazy, 
I can’t tell who I should trust or just who I let trust me, yeah

There’s a lot of fake friends out there.  I used to think LA was the capital of fake friends.  But I think fake friends can be found anywhere.  There’s a lot of frenemies too.  I’ve had friends that compete with me for guys, friends that were overly needy, etc.

Well, is it me, or can it be I’m a little too friendly 
So to speak hypothetically
Say I supply creativity to what others must take as a form of self-hate
Only to make an enemy which results in unfortunate destiny.
They dog me out then be next to me, 
Just cause I am what some choose to envy

This got me to thinking who are our real friends?  They often change as the season changes.  Some people are only meant to be in our lives for certain seasons.  The trouble begins when we try to take people who should only be in one season of our life into another.  This can apply to lovers too.  Often they are an ex for a reason.

What about your friends, will they stand their ground,
Will they let you down again?

No one is perfect.

Everyone will let us down at some time or another.  However I think it’s important to notice those who consistently aren’t there for us.  It says something about how much value we hold in their eyes.

Every now and then, I get a little easy,
I let a lot of people depend on me
I never thought they would ever deceive me, 
Don’t you know when times got rough,
I was standing on my own

We cannot be close friends with everyone.

Though I use the term friend loosely, I have a few close friends in my inner circle.  Jesus had 12 disciples but he was closest only to three, Peter, James and John.  That shows me that we are incapable of being close to a lot of people at once.  We just humanly can’t do it.  And if you have a family that you’re raising, that’s even truer.  And we shouldn’t feel bad about it.

What about your friends, are they gonna be lowdown, 
Will they ever be around,
Or will they turn their backs on you?

Those 2000 friends you have on Facebook aren’t your real friends.  How many people could you really call on in a bind?  Sometime you’re lucky to just have one friend to call on when times get tough.  All those likes at the end of the day can be deceiving.  How many people can you count on to like and support you when you’re down?  Don’t take social media too seriously.

You see I’ve grown a lot smarter now
Sometimes you have to choose and then you’ll see,
If your friend is true then they’ll be there with you thru thick and thin

Choose your friends wisely.  They have the power to impact your life for the better or worse.

In life we should evaluate, grow and develop.  Just because someone was good for you in one season doesn’t mean they are good for you in another.  And that’s OK.  Change is constant.  Don’t be afraid and feel like things have to be like they were to be good. 😉


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8 thoughts on “What about your friends?

  1. I like that song by TLC.

    I remember watching an episode of “Dr. Phil”. He has mentioned about having good friends or no friends at all. The worst thing a person can do is find bad friends. He can have a hard time getting rid of them.

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  2. Loved the way you used the lyrics of the song lyrics as subject headings ☺.
    To me, a good friend is more valuable than money. And to have extraordinary friends and relationships, you have to be an extraordinary friend.
    And I totally agree that friendships change and evolve throughout your life. I know for sure that I’ve had to redefine my relationship status with certain people in the last year for various reasons.

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