An Ode to the LBD



Any day now,
I am ready to hang up my LBD Continue reading


Dating Advice for Men


(Part 1 of this series was posted yesterday for the ladies.  This is Part 2 for the fellas.)

I hear a lot of men saying that it’s hard to find a good woman.  I don’t doubt that, women have their issues.  One minute we say we want one thing and the next minute it seems we’ve completely changed our minds.  What is it exactly that women want in a man? 

If you’ve been on the dating scene for a minute and want to find something serious I have some tips that I think will improve your chances of finding a quality woman.  Continue reading

Ladies: Make better dating choices


For the most part I am a big advocate of speaking the truth in love, I believe you catch more flies with honey than vinegar.  But every now and then I have to shoot it to you straight.  Even Jesus did that from time to time.  His words could pierce like a sword.

Please know I am here to help you.  I am on your side.  But there are some things you must hear.  I am not saying you are guilty;  you are not already condemned in my book,  I am  simply asking you to evaluate yourself against the below dating advice and go from there. Continue reading

Dream Killers

lightstock_397969_jpg_mayaMartin Luther King had a dream.  I have a dream.  You have a dream.

We all have dreams, goals and desires that we want to see come to pass.

Are you excited and optimistic that your dreams will come to pass or do you feel discouraged and doubt that they will ever manifest?

Did you once know beyond a shadow of the doubt that you wanted to accomplish a certain task or achieve a certain goal but now that dream seems far beyond your reach?

Maybe you somehow got off course or your dream feels like it was somehow stolen.

Have you lost hope?  Well I want to encourage you today. Continue reading

Winning with the hand you are dealt


I didn’t really grow up watching sports.  I attended some football and basketball high school games growing up, but my family wasn’t really that into sports.

I didn’t really get into sports until I got older and one of my guy friends started taking me to professional games and explaining plays to me.  I’m still not the most well versed in it by any means but I know a lil sum, sum!

But what I noticed is that when the team is loosing the coach will often make adjustments to the plays in order to win the game.

Sometimes the team comes back to win the game and sometimes they don’t.  Such is life.

So this got me to thinking that sports games are similar to the game of life.  Just like a good coach will make adjustments at half time in order to win the game so it is with the game of life. Continue reading

Happy Mother’s Day to my Mom




Disclaimer: I will attempt not to tear up while writing this blog.

First off Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers!  What a blessing to care for, nurture and support a child.  God has bestowed a great gift upon you. 🙂

This blog is going to be sort of like an open letter/tribute to my mom.  They say you should give people their flowers while they are still alive.  That’s what I’m going to attempt to do here and what I try to do pretty often for her. Continue reading

What is love?

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People have different definitions of love.  Some people think love equates sex and some people think love means showering them with gifts or exorbitant amounts of money.

I think a mistake that often happens in the dating world is that we assume that our definition of love is equal to our partners.  A lot of you are familiar with the book “Five Love Languages“,  in which the author outlines five ways to express and experience love; through acts of service, physical touch, quality time, etc.  I think this is helpful but I also think searching your own heart and practicing self-awareness about how you perceive love is most helpful.  Think of it this way, if you feel loved by spending an abundant amount of quality time with someone but your partner feels loved by receiving gifts even though you’re doing your best at what you think is loving them, they won’t feel loved.  This is why communication is so important. Continue reading